Monday, September 10, 2012

You're Not Fat...

I'm almost POSITIVE every woman, every size has probably heard the phrase "You're not fat" at least once in your life, told you you by a sweet friend or some guy trying to get the goods.  No matter what size you are, we women sometimes tend to bring the little Debbie Downer on ourselves after literally consuming a Little Debbie cake. 

 Personally I am one of the worst offenders when it comes to asking the question "Do I look fat in this?".  And to be honest the only people ever in my life to answer that question wrong would be my Mother! and oh, of course my GRANDMA! But in all reality they are the most honest people I know because they don't want a damn thing from me, other than to love me and to give me some blunt honesty. ---And to be honest with you sometimes It's amusing, and sometimes just it hurts my feelings.  But don't feel bad for me.  I'm a big girl. No pun intended!!! :-))

Plus Size Model Tara Lynn

 Does model Tara Lynn look fat to you? Does she look skinny? No.  She looks FIERCE! And working those curves!

For those who do tell us what MAY or may NOT be the truth by stating "You're not fat." after you confess you want to lose some weight, or cry about not fitting that sexy dress--we will never know what their opinions truly are.  Because everyone does have their own opinion on what is sexy, unattractive, what is good, bad, and what if fat, you must find what types of clothes are best work on you and your body type.
 Look for colors that complement your hair, eyes and/or complexion, if that color is black then rock it! Too often (especially since the color blocking trends) does the solid black look get the stinky eye but if that is what makes you feel sexy wear it!  Black goes with everything integrate colors in by adding jewelery or a clutch.  I like to add red to outfits for sex appeal--especially for date nite! Red is just so FIERCE!  Below is an outfit that will surly kill "Debbie Downer Days" 

Clutch by Tom Ford from

You can find pumps like these at DSW, Zappos, and Payless

From the Posh shoppe on ebay up to 3X!

 Or opt out for a chic look with the same black dress pictured above paired with these!...

 Purchase this blazer from Forever21 Plus+

RSVP Cailyn Ivory at

 Whatever clothes that make you feel good about yourself is a plus, but always be open to try new looks that you may have been afraid to try before.  Mix up your closet and match pieces that you didn't intend to go together and make a new outfit! 

 Soon I will be posting some things I mixed and matched together from my very own closet!

Seriously, when we become confident in ourselves we then begin to let the "Do I look fat in this?" question finally die with some of our insecurities.  Our friends wont be pleading to pick up our self-esteems' any longer by telling us "You're not fat." but by acknowledging that you my dear, are FIERCE!

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